Learn who you are because a lot of the time the sadness isn’t you either. It is a safety blanket, being sad stops you from being hurt or getting let down or disappointed and deep down you will know it’s not you. But we grow comfortable in our sadness and depressive states as crazy as it is to believe. Like we will never admit it but it’s easier to stay sad. It gives us a reason for our lot in life. It allows us to pity ourselves and that’s not a bad thing. It’s a healthy normal human thing. But I think our generation has made a habit of getting into that downward spiral too frequently and we sometimes, sadly, drag others down into it. What I think we need to do is offer a helping hand out of that hole.
A text to a friend. (via wild-nirvana)


stop romanticizing unhealthy relationships.

stop thinking you can change someone. you can’t. they need to change for themselves.

stop romanticizing the idea of you two being together some day. if it isn’t happening now, let it go. 

no more pouring your heart out for someone who gives you little to no reciprocation. 

find someone who values your long letters and passionate attempts. this person will reciprocate, with twice as much fire.